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Interpersonal Session Seven

Wheatley is in. For next time, Wheatley 1 - 77. BB&R 86-94

Index card assignment for Tuesday: Go through the syllabus, looking at the sub-bullets. Pick three that seem particularly interesting to you. Write them on an index card.

Self-Disclosure

Beebe, Beebe, and Redmond, p. 60-68

Self-disclosure - Telling people things they could not discover if you didn't tell them
we cannot acheive intimacy without self-disclosure
- but it comes with risks
social penetration
- self as a facited onion
- Most people never see more than the surface
- Some people get to see more deeply
- Friends often get a scattered view of our interests and concerns
- Business associates and members of organizations we join sometimes get to see some aspect of us in depth
- Only a few people get a wide and deep view, and that view is never perfect
To disclose to others, you have to be self aware
- This isn't always easy
- Often our best window to who we are is other people
  - family and friends
  - professionals and standardized measures can also help
  - and of course, we have to actually listen
Characteristics of appropriate self-disclosure
- it moves small increments - trust is a big issue
- it moves from less personal to more personal - earlier information is a kind of a test of the other person
- it is reciprical - reciprocity breeds trust
- it entails risk - the other person may not like who we turn out to be, or even use our disclosures against us
- entails trust - self-disclosure entails an ethical commitment
  - and trust is earned (via)
    - self-disclosure
    - commitment
    - investment

 Commitment ------------------+
      ^  ^                    v
      |  +---> Trust <---> Self-Disclosure
      v  v                    ^
 Investment ------------------+

The Process of Perception.

Selection, Organization, and Interpretation.
Perceptions, Impressions, and Descriptions

Beebe, Beebe, and Redmond, p. 72-86

Meaning - the heart of communication
- Driven by perception perception
- Words constrain how we see things
- Outline A or E
- Nine dots squared
  - connect all the dots with four connected lines
Interpersonal Perception
- the process
  - of experience the world of our interactions
  - and making sense of it
    - what are people like
    - how can I make sense of their actions

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