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Index Card Assignment due Wednesday: Imagine you to meet an extraterrestrial (a being from another planet). How hard would it be to get them to understand that "The French Fries are good at ?McDonald's". What must we be able to assume to communicate that thought.
Overcoming the dialogue deficit
Yankelovich 7-31
Is dialogue different than conversation, discussion, or debate?
Purposes of dialogue
- strenthening relationships
- soolving problems
- reaching mutual understanding
- finding win-win solutions
What is dialogue?
- being genuinely open to the concerns of the other
- a process of relationship building
- an important way of involving people in things
- everyone wants to feel like their ideas matter
- a way of reaching sound social judgements
- the "public" is rarely well informed
- their judgements are rarely based entirely on factual information
- but somehow they often reach reasonable judgements
- weighing what they hear from others against their convictions
- comparing notes and figuring out what makes sense to them
Dialogue is a highly specialized form of discussion
- entails the discipline to:
- listen
- without judging or filtering
- opening oneself to understand the others position
- may not result in agreement, but lack of agreement does not indicate failure.
- understanding
- acceptance
- forgiveness
Interpersonal Communication and Self
Stewart, 57-71, 83-106
Verbal and non-verbal talk construct the world's we inhabit. That construction is:
- Collaborative (actually co-construction)
- Direct Definition
- Life Scripts
- Reflected Appraisal
- Emergent
- we inhale others
- we exhale ourselves
- and we never really stop
- Entails elements of reaction and response
- automatic role and script driven reactions
- thoughtful responses
- Multidimensional
- we have different selves for different contexts
- work
- home
- friends
- significant others
- Invisible
- We most often don't even know what is happening
- Ongoing: We never really stop
The self that emerges is composed of:
- Relationships
- Scripts
- Roles
- Expectations
- Desires
- Values
- Beliefs
- Attitudes
- Knowledge
- Emotions
- Choices
None of these stays still, but some are more enduring than others
We discover our identity in the things we say and don't say in our relationships and interactions.
Eight communication "tools" associated with identity maintenance (Harold Barrett):
- control
- achievement
- opposition
- attribution
- anger
- denial
- withdrawl
- prevarication
- falsehood
- excuse-making
- justifications
- evasions
- white lies
Index Card Assignment due today: When was the last time you got really angry at someone? Who was it with? What did you do? How did they react?
Illustrate:
- precipitating events (objects, causes)
- appraisal
- physiological changes
- expression (action tendencies, action)
- regulation
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